Why not make this the year that you really find out who you are and what you’re capable of?

Most of us want to set some big goals in January and try to change our lives all at once. We know this never works – we’re overwhelmed by the size of the task, and our drive to get there gets worn down when it starts to get difficult. That’s why habit experts suggest taking on just one thing at a time, starting small and working on them for at least a month before trying to add anything new. Better one new habit for life than ten for a week. For a good look at this, try posts like this.

I have a long way to go on this but I’ve found that with a little work you can easily see a nice 1% difference – I say 1% but I’m not talking about anything you actually measure. It’s more a way of saying that it’s a small step change, enough to start seeing a difference in your life but small enough that you have no problem believing you can do it.

(As an aside, if you started at a value of 1 and really did increase 1% each day, at the end of the year you’d be about 35 times as good as you were at the start of the year. So don’t knock the 1% step change! For a more realistic illustration, let’s say you can see a 1% improvement each week. In just under a year and a half, your life would be twice as good as it is now. Of course, life isn’t linear or numerical like this. But you can see the point. Slow is OK.)

So you don’t have to revolutionise your life all at once. Just find something that will have an impact on your ability to function in the life you have, and get better at it.

It just so happens that I know something like that.

This year, why not make a commitment to yourself that you will ruthlessly seek out and remove the things that hold you back from doing all the things you are able to do? I am of course talking mostly about the internal things – what you believe about yourself. Let’s make this the year you stop acting out of old patterns and choose the new ways you want to live, from a deeper knowledge of yourself what you can really do.

This process will take time. But even if it only makes a little bit of difference each day, when you multiply that across the rest of your life – it starts looking really good.

Happy New Year! Let’s make it up to 35 times better! But slowly!

(Your year may be more or less than 35 times better. Figures for illustration only.)